Mary Killen

Mary Killen writes The Spectator's Dear Mary column.

Dear Mary: How can I angle for a wedding invitation?

30 April 2016 9:00 am

Q. How does one go about getting invited to a wedding? Two friends of mine from university, who I have…

Dear Mary: how can my friend make her husband wear his hearing aids?

23 April 2016 9:00 am

Q. A friend of mine’s husband is in his nineties. They are a delightful couple but the husband has started…

Dear Mary on thongs vs big pants and stilettos on wooden floors

16 April 2016 9:00 am

Q. I have a daily problem with knickers. I am size eight so not obese, but I find the sort…

Dear Mary: How can I make a conversation-stopping gaffe go away?

9 April 2016 9:00 am

Q. What should a host do when a guest says something so embarrassing in front of the assembled company that…

Dear Mary: How to stop a host turning his dinner party into a debate

2 April 2016 9:00 am

Q. Twice recently our host has clinked his glass, required us to stop relaxing and instead take part in a…

Dear Mary: Should my widowed mother and her boyfriend get separate beds?

26 March 2016 9:00 am

Q. I was interested in the advice given to the niece who owed £30 (12 March). A more direct option,…

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My life as a Gogglebox star

26 March 2016 9:00 am

Being on TV while watching TV is no route to riches, but it brings unexpected rewards, explains Mary Killen

Trooping The Colour

Dear Mary: help me to engineer a date with this charming army officer

19 March 2016 9:00 am

Q. I have a deep crush on an army officer I’ve met through work. He is decisive, practical and doesn’t…

Dear Mary: my niece hasn’t returned the small sum I lent her

12 March 2016 9:00 am

Q. My niece, who came to stay with me in the country for the weekend, arrived without cash and asked…

Dear Mary: My husband leaves all cupboards and drawers open

5 March 2016 9:00 am

Q. Re. your letter from F.C. about the boyfriend leaving lids off (20 February), I have a similar problem. My husband…

Dear Mary: new neighbours want me to provide a ready-made social scene

27 February 2016 9:00 am

Q. Former colleagues, with whom I got on very well in the context of the office, are buying a house…

Dear Mary: How can I teach my boyfriend to put the lids back on?

20 February 2016 9:00 am

Q. I love my boyfriend but he has a terrible habit I was unaware of before he moved in. If…

Dear Mary: How can I teach my godson to write thank-you letters?

13 February 2016 9:00 am

Q. I recently rediscovered a wonderful 22-year-old godson. He came to shoot for the first time and was a marvellous…

Dear Mary: Must I have name badges for guests at my wedding?

6 February 2016 9:00 am

Q. My husband-to-be and I both work full time. We are getting married from his family HQ and his kind…

Is it rude to run out of cartridges?

Dear Mary: How can I escape the New Year party that just won’t give up?

30 January 2016 9:00 am

Q. For the past two New Year’s Eves we have ducked an annual party given by some acquaintances, who are…

Dear Mary: Our granddaughters are giving money away to a cause we do not support. Should we cut off their funding?

23 January 2016 9:00 am

Q. We have two granddaughters working hard and happily at university. It is our pleasure to give them some cash…

Dear Mary: What do you do when too many people accept a party invitation?

16 January 2016 9:00 am

Q. What can be done when more people than you can cater for accept an invitation? We are giving a…

Dear Mary: My neighbour is planning a girls’ night in — how can I escape?

9 January 2016 9:00 am

Q. Although I have met most of the fellow occupants of my building at residents’ meetings, we don’t socialise. However…

Dear Mary: On a troublesome festive invitation

2 January 2016 9:00 am

I have been alone in the country this festive season as my adult children and most of my friends are…

Dear Mary solves problems for Nicky Haslam, Nigel Slater, Professor Mary Beard and others

12 December 2015 9:00 am

From Nicky HaslamQ. Being considered something of a guru on the subject of things common, can you advise me how…

Dear Mary: How to stop someone from giving my tiny children expensive clothes that they never wear?

5 December 2015 9:00 am

Q. Is there a tactful way to deter certain people from buying clothing for one’s tiny children as Christmas presents?…

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Right on time

5 December 2015 9:00 am

Are you habitually late for social events on the grounds that everyone knows how busy you are and that you…

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Dear Mary: How can I protect my sick husband from his friends?

28 November 2015 9:00 am

Q. My husband is, in a word, adorable. However, following a substantial brain operation, his doctor has told him that…

Dear Mary: How can I shut up business travel bores?

21 November 2015 9:00 am

Q. I work in the London art market. Often, when I run into a fellow dealer and ask how they…

Dear Mary on cheering up an ageing Adonis....

14 November 2015 9:00 am

Q. The other night, as I arrived at the John James exhibition on Fulham Road, I stopped to say hello…