Mary Killen Mary Killen

Dear Mary | 11 August 2016

Also in Dear Mary: mystery presents and a garden-party crisis

Q. I live in Balham but work in Mayfair. Twice recently I have had to take whole days off work to wait in for deliveries of online purchases that could only be scheduled for ‘some time between 7 a.m. and 7 p.m.’ My son says this is the hidden price I must pay for shopping at low-cost outlets. I have a cleaner but she doesn’t work a 12-hour day. What do other people do?
—J.F., London SW12

A. Other people have had the sense to make friends with retired neighbours. Many of these long for the chance to get away from their partners and sit quietly reading in a neighbour’s house all day instead of being bothered in their own. You can recruit likely candidates by attending jubilee street parties, pub quizzes, planning meetings and Women’s Institute meetings (which take place once a month in Balham). Just as with speed-dating, you will be able to tell instinctively which neighbour would fit the bill. £20 a day is the going rate.

Q. Our kind daughter-in-law has given us a perfect golden wedding party. Many cards and some unexpected presents were left: two beautiful plants and a cup were detached from cards. Is there any way in which we might thank the givers? Since we hadn’t expected anything, we never made a plan. Is there a polite way out of the dilemma?
—Name and address withheld

A. You must hand this chore over to your daughter-in-law, since she will have the email addresses of all attendees. It is just a matter of her photographing the cup and plants and sending a group email asking donors to identify themselves.

Already a subscriber? Log in

Keep reading with a free trial

Subscribe and get your first month of online and app access for free. After that it’s just £1 a week.

There’s no commitment, you can cancel any time.


Unlock more articles



Don't miss out

Join the conversation with other Spectator readers. Subscribe to leave a comment.

Already a subscriber? Log in