Social manners

Mary answers your problems: The tactful way to get rid of a drunk guest

25 November 2017 9:00 am

Q. I was recently at an informal dinner given by two dear friends, but returned home seething with rage against…

Mary solves your problems: My husband’s started working from home – and he’s driving me crazy

18 November 2017 9:00 am

Q. My husband, who used to be away on business most of the time, now works from home and has…

Singles-only parties should be disastrous. They’re actually divine

23 September 2017 9:00 am

A pro-active friend in her fifties, recently divorced, has decided to organise a restaurant dinner once a month for friends,…

Mary solves your problems: How do I dodge my annoying chatty neighbour?

2 September 2017 9:00 am

Q. Our best friends own a house in Morocco which sleeps about ten. They rent it out but go two…

With far too many funerals to attend, how do I support my grieving chums?

19 August 2017 9:00 am

Q. Mary, I am what you would probably call a Sloane Ranger. I have great numbers of close friends and…

Let’s hear it for the joy of sex

12 August 2017 9:00 am

Stop confusing chastity with decency

Never chuck an invite for a better one... unless it’s from the Queen

12 August 2017 9:00 am

Q. I was brought up to stick rigidly to any invitation accepted and never to ‘chuck’ when a better one…

Can we just stop calling everything ‘perfect’?

22 July 2017 9:00 am

Let’s keep the word for the things that truly deserve it

How can I get more likes for my amazing Instagram posts?

22 July 2017 9:00 am

Q. Last summer a friend of my brother-in-law’s house-sat for us while we were in Greece for a week. We…

Why I’m at my wit’s end with dating

17 June 2017 9:00 am

Men like funny women; they just don’t want to sleep with them

How can I stop a friend posting photos on Instagram of my parties?

10 June 2017 9:00 am

Q. We have received a ‘save the week’ card from friends who take a villa abroad every year. We usually…

Stop carping at having to buy a holiday gift for your cleaner. It’s vital

13 May 2017 9:00 am

Q. My 23-year-old son has taught himself to play the piano, learning the theme tune to The Truman Show without…

My cleaner is brilliant but how can I stop her working in bare feet?

6 May 2017 9:00 am

Q. I have a very good cleaner who comes once a week. She is far more efficient than anyone I’ve…

I’m shouting it loud: I’m proud to be a prude

22 April 2017 9:00 am

Forget compromises – women must learn to say ‘no, I’d rather not’

Does a gentleman raise his hat once or twice to a lesbian couple?

15 April 2017 9:00 am

Q. My aunt lives in a small market town with narrow roads and limited parking. A neighbour opposite acquired a…

How dare they ban our life-enhancing lunchtime drinks?

25 March 2017 9:00 am

How dare they ban our life-enhancing lunchtime drinks?

The mystery of the disappearing men

25 March 2017 9:00 am

On falling victim to the infuriating pandemic of ‘ghosting’

Will my inner party animal ever roar back to life?

25 February 2017 9:00 am

According to a front-page story in the Times earlier this week, your personality does change over the course of your…

Noisy neighbour? Just download a crying baby from the internet...

18 February 2017 9:00 am

Q. My husband and I like to go to concerts and recitals but he is an artist with a very…

Longing for a back-of-cab kiss? Then don’t get an Uber

11 February 2017 9:00 am

How Uber is killing the back-of-cab clinch

From safaris to cups of tea, our motives are seldom what they seem

21 January 2017 9:00 am

When were you last in a game reserve? Perhaps most Spectator readers will be familiar with the experience and if…

How Brexit gave us a different class of snob

31 December 2016 9:00 am

Britain’s defining social vice is on the rise again

Who can have sent us such a lovely Christmas card?

31 December 2016 9:00 am

Q. Our first Christmas card arrived on 2 December and it was a lovely thing — a Burne-Jones angel musician,…

Who will rid me of this turbulent beast?

10 December 2016 9:00 am

I’m keeping my eyes peeled for one of those billboards saying ‘A dog is for life, not just for Christmas’…

Help! I misused an Old Guards tie... in an interview for the regiment!

26 November 2016 9:00 am

Last week I went for an interview with the Irish Guards. My father and his father were both in this…