Marriage

Portrait of Helen by John Bellany

The ordeal of being married (twice) to John Bellany

5 May 2018 9:00 am

Misery memoirs are in vogue. There is much misery in this harrowing account of married life with John Bellany (1942–2013)…

I used to think I was smarter than my wife. Not anymore

14 April 2018 9:00 am

According to new research published in Advances in Physiology Education, men tend to significantly overestimate their own intelligence whereas women…

For Julian Barnes, the only story is a love story — and it’s inevitably sad

27 January 2018 9:00 am

The story, as it emerges, feels both familiar and inevitable. A bored 19-year-old student, on his university holidays in mid-century…

Why marriage is increasingly for the royals – and the rich

2 December 2017 9:00 am

Weddings are out of fashion, but only at the bottom of the scale

Divorce is a disaster. Don’t let’s make it easier

25 November 2017 9:00 am

I went to Relate once, the counselling service formerly known as the National Marriage Guidance Council. I wasn’t married at…

How can I prevent my husband from burning all my post?

18 November 2017 9:00 am

Our own dear Mary wishes Giles wouldn’t automatically assume that everything she’s sent is junk mail

Mary solves your problems: My husband’s started working from home – and he’s driving me crazy

18 November 2017 9:00 am

Q. My husband, who used to be away on business most of the time, now works from home and has…

It’s time to choose between alcohol or my marriage

22 July 2017 9:00 am

When my husband and I arrived in our adored Amsterdam on a sun-drenched schoolday afternoon — less than an hour…

Prince Charles wants a Queen Camilla. He’s still wrong. Here’s why

25 February 2017 9:00 am

The Prince of Wales is campaigning, with skill and discretion, to crown his consort one day. It’s still wrong

How Alexander Chancellor restored The Spectator's greatness

4 February 2017 9:00 am

As he left the editorship of The Spectator in March 1984, Alexander Chancellor wrote in this space: ‘When I joined…

Middle-class marriage — and an apologia for adultery

21 January 2017 9:00 am

What to make of this unexpectedly startling novel? Though you may be lured into a false sense of familiarity by…

I marry my ‘toyboy’ and go climbing in high heels

15 October 2016 9:00 am

To Edinburgh to get married, but first my toyboy groom John Playfair (he’s a mere 69) shows me the city…

The rise of marriage for one

27 August 2016 9:00 am

Meet the women taking the ‘we’ out of wedding

Dear Mary: Would it be kinder NOT to give a homemade wedding present?

25 June 2016 8:00 am

Q. A friend’s daughter is marrying soon. She and her husband-to-be, both art-lovers, have dispensed with a wedding list, instead…

Confessions of a groomzilla

11 June 2016 9:00 am

It’s not just brides-to-be who can fuss absurdly over weddings. I’m living proof

Dear Mary: Is it naff to circulate an advance list of dinner-party guests?

11 June 2016 9:00 am

Q. When going out to dinner I’ve found some people will send everyone a list of the other guests so…

The day I stopped believing in the friendship myth

4 June 2016 9:00 am

Should we be surprised that friendship isn’t always mutual? That is one of the findings of a team of researchers…

Why the leap-year proposal is a nonsense

27 February 2016 9:00 am

It’s nonsense that women should be given one day in every four years to propose marriage

Tim Parks’s one-sided ‘love story’ is a long trudge in the rain

13 February 2016 9:00 am

The title of Tim Parks’s 17th novel is false advertising, because Thomas and Mary: A Love Story is barely a…

Losing my son and the end of my life’s summer

5 September 2015 9:00 am

Hedonism, tragedy and me

My wife and I have become Mr and Mrs Twit

5 September 2015 9:00 am

This is a cautionary tale for any young couples out there thinking of tying the knot. Be wary of what…

How many royal cliches can you fit into a single Channel 4 documentary?

29 August 2015 9:00 am

In 2011, the Daily Mail carried a long story about how the Queen’s cousin Prince William of Gloucester, who died…

Prue Leith’s diary: When did weddings stop being for parents?

8 August 2015 9:00 am

My Cambodian daughter and her husband have just got married again. Wedding One was a Buddhist affair in our drawing…

Dear Mary: My husband has shaved his head for a newspaper feature

27 June 2015 9:00 am

Q. My partner, a leading political commentator on a national newspaper, recently agreed to shave off his hair at the…

Adultery websites should be as unacceptable as race-hate websites

13 June 2015 9:00 am

Why don’t more people object to online promotion of adultery?