
Fabian Carstairs has narrated this article for you to listen to.
There’s a online blacklist of men you should avoid dating and I’m on it. I discovered this over the summer when a colleague gave me a nudge and showed me a screenshot of my dating profile. ‘That’s you, isn’t it?’ A wave of fear passed through me. I had been posted on a Facebook group named ‘Are we dating the same guy?’. I set out to discover more.
The group itself was easy enough to find. It was started in New York last year to help the city’s single women avoid ‘red flag’ men. The group describes itself as a place where women can ‘warn other women about liars, cheaters, abusers, or anyone who exhibits any type of toxic or dangerous behaviour’. Now it has more than two million members from 120 cities across the world. The London group has nearly 73,000 members.
Joining the group was going to be less easy: for starters, you have to be female.
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