John Sturgis

Stop misgendering my dog

It's everyday canine sexism

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It happens a couple of times a week: in parks, usually; sometimes outside shops, on Tube trains or in pubs. ‘What kind of dog is he?’ they’ll ask. I answer: ‘Bearded collie crossed with a greyhound which comes out looking like a deerhound but is actually a lurcher.’ But this is pointedly preceded by: ‘She’s a…’ I don’t like to be rude when strangers are being interested and congenial, but I feel compelled to quietly make the point that the dog they’re expressing interest in is not a he but a she. 

News emerged this month that God might be becoming gender neutral. Or at least, certain factions of the Anglican church are considering whether it’s time to stop assuming that the Christian deity is male and instead to become more inclusive by, for example, using they/them pronouns. With this development, dog ownership is surely the last walk of life – or perhaps walkies of life – in which, in relation to gender, the popular mindset remains Victorian. Because, as until now with God, and historically with doctors but not nurses, there’s a widespread assumption of maleness in dogs. 

My female dogs have been misgendered by MPs, teachers, doctors of both genders, priests. Tammy once got referred to as ‘he’ by Emily Maitlis while playing with her whippet at Corfe Castle

I’ve had two female dogs over three decades and I continue to be amazed by how many people – very often people who, in all other circumstances, are politically and socially right-on – assume that all dogs are male. Misgendering, as this is known, is so normal that no one seems the slightest bit embarrassed even when their sexist misconception is pointed out. 

‘He’s so fast!’ they’ll say as Tammy streaks past. Or ‘He thinks I have some treats in my pocket!’ as she nuzzles them.

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