Mary Killen Mary Killen

Your problems solved | 8 August 2019

Q. A friend constantly walks around with his bootlaces undone. His wife declines to nag him on the grounds she doesn’t want to be in a ‘co-dependent relationship’. We all enjoy this man’s company but we cannot work out whether his habit is attention-seeking (for example he often has to kick his legs out at right angles when walking while carrying a lot of equipment) or just a manifestation of his natural slobbishness. Either way it will not make for a restful atmosphere in a forthcoming week-long fishing party. What do you suggest?

— S.H., Church Stretton, Salop

A. Get hold of the boots while the irritator is in bed and tie each single lace up in a tightly knotted double bow to stand smartly, but not dangling, by the eyelets on either side. The laces will be still intact should he want to do them up — but, since he never does, it will be no inconvenience to him.

Q. The experience of your correspondent O.R. (Dear Mary, 3 August) of not being asked a single question at dinner is not confined to politician neighbours: a lady friend of mine sat next to a man who, similarly, asked her nothing until, somewhat begrudgingly towards the end of the meal, said: ‘And what do you do?’ Completely fed up with his rudeness, the friend, who is in her sixties, replied: ‘Oh, I’m a hostess; my husband’s income is just too small to cover our costs so I have to find other ways.’ This stimulated the conversation!

— P.F., Mere, Wilts

A. Thank you for sharing this tip. What a marvellous punishment she meted out.

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